So the last few hours or so are the first down time since I moved in, and it is boring. I have an asian theater homework I can do, but that is about it. Some people semi invited me to a party later, but I do not enjoy them...
I don't want a girl, I just want good friends I don't want parties, I just want to stay busy with good work I am not anti social, I am anti socializing. If I could just have a packed schedule with important things, organizations, classes, whatever - that would be great. BUt right now, nothing. Sunday will be that way, too, unless someone wants to have a meeting (unlikely).
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I seem to have a spot on Hall Council (resident hall student administration) pretty well lined up, as I know most of the RAs and we get along well. I hope that pans out. And I volunteered for a major conference event for all of the schools in the northeast that our campus is hosting.
That's all for now, more later as I think of it.
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In front of his superiors he is not shy, even becomes aggressive. He knows that business only then goes perfectly if the necessary tempo is set from the very beginning.
You won't find those "good friends" that you want if you become a stick in the mud and don't like to have any fun. What reason would others have to hang out with you if they find you boring. Friendship is a two way street and being "anti-socializing" totally works against that. Just my $.02
Fine - then I won't have any friends. It is better than being bored out of my mind. Everyone can just be "professional acquaintances" or "colleagues" as far as I am concerned. I make my friends through doing things together anyways - and I really do not care if that is against the grain or not. Everyone else can do their thing, and I will do mine, too. No regrets.
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In front of his superiors he is not shy, even becomes aggressive. He knows that business only then goes perfectly if the necessary tempo is set from the very beginning.
cracka: What kind of friends would they be though if he has to not be himself in order to be friends with them?
Courage: It sounds like you're keeping yourself busy and such, (hopefully doing things you enjoy doing). There's a possibility you'll make acquaintances during these activities, and eventually some of them may become friends. And funnily enough, this means you'll have a higher liklihood of them having similar interests as yours. (What a concept, eh? ;) )
Hmm. I've been here almost 4 years, and still don't have any local friends - but you know, that's okay, because you folks more than make up for it :D Anyway, I figure once I have time to start being involved in things, I'll meet people and make friends. I've just been stuck at home, or just doing kid things, etc. for a long time. Hard to meet anyone that way.
Like anndelise said, meeting people doing things you enjoy will probably lead to friendships with them. You're already starting from common ground.
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Of course I agree with ann. What good is it, if you have to not be yourself to make friends.
Though I think everyone has to make an effort making friends. Most of the time, it doesn't just happen, and it isn't always that people will approach you first.
I don't think you really dislike socializing that much. Probably didn't like the atmosphere you've experienced? And this associated socializing with having to be fun fun fun all the time and loud parties. That is not always the case IMO. You can socialize just as much in a small group of friends, or just ONE friend.
Forget about those people who think you're boring, since they feel that way, you don't need them. One good friend who accepts you and you can trust worths more than 10 of the former.
About the party, if you feel that uncomfortable at the party, and you think you don't enjoy their company, don't go. However, it's a party! It's not only them there. Parties are crowded with people. From the ones who seek attention in big groups, to the ones who sit at corners in smaller groups. You never know who you might meet. You COULD meet your dual, who knows. lol. At least you could make good friends with other people at the party. Worth a shot, if you decide to go that is.
I just know I have to do what I want, and that's that.
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In front of his superiors he is not shy, even becomes aggressive. He knows that business only then goes perfectly if the necessary tempo is set from the very beginning.
